Working mothers face quite a few challenges both at home and the workplace. Ask any working mom what she finds most difficult and the top answer would be - Guilt. The time spent away from her children and the home is something that all working mothers deal with and this comes with its own share of emotions that need to be acknowledged and processed. While some may enjoy pursuing a career, for some others there is a financial need to work. In either case, the emotions that all mothers go through are the same and here we take a look at how to work through these challenges and make the best of the situation.

You are not alone

Take comfort from the fact that you are not the only one who is wracked by guilt. Sharing your feelings with other working women, some of whom are most likely your colleagues in office, will make you feel less guilty and isolated. Sharing notes with them can help you get a different perspective and venting helps as well!

Reflect on the reasons for work

There are many reasons why women get back to work and all of them are valid. While some love the challenges of a fulfilling career, for some there are financial constraints and for others maybe an intellectual need. Whatever the reason, do remind yourself about why you decided to continue working. Put it down on paper and read it whenever you are filled with doubts. Trust that you have made the decisions for the right reasons.

Make time for the important occasions

Remember to make it for your child's 100 meter dash on sports day or when he is playing the tree in the school play! Your presence can mean a lot to him and this may probably be more important than running errands or taking him for karate class. Sometimes what seems like a minor event for an adult can be the most important thing for your child. So do stay connected to his inner world and validate his feelings.

Keep the perspective

As a working mom be prepared to accept that you may not be around to witness all your children's magical milestones. Acknowledge and mourn your sense of loss but do remember that there are tradeoffs in terms of being able to offer them better opportunities with the additional income. As they grow older and busier with academics, extracurricular activities and friends, you may find that they might not have time for you!

Choose your staff with care

As you cannot be there all the time for your children, choose your caregiver or housekeeper with care and make sure that they come with the right references. If you can trust them and be assured that your children are in safe hands, you will feel less guilty about your work.

Surprise your child with a day off

If you feel that familiar gnawing guilt in the pit of your stomach, then go ahead and be impulsive, play hooky! Reconnect with your child. If he is younger take him to the park or a swimming pool and splash around with him. For older children, let them choose the activity, whether it is a day out at the mall or catching a movie and lunch. Some weekends can be spent errand free and you can get the children to set the agenda.

Keep away from negative people

There will be times when your nosy neighbor or a relative may make snide remarks about your work and parenting abilities. Stay far away from those who make you feel guilty. While you don't have to pick an argument to justify yourself, it would do well to avoid such negative influences. Sometimes people's ideas about parenting are different, so make allowances for it. Don't allow others to judge you and make sure you are not your own critical judge.

Cut yourself some slack

Remember that your child has other important influences in his life apart from you - the father, grandparents, teachers, caregivers and friends. Your child will benefit from time spent with these significant others in his life as well. So learn to let go and trust that you are doing the best that you can for your children. Accept that you will make some mistakes, learn from them and move on.

It is not always easy to juggle work and the children but remember that staying at home with them is no walk in the park either! The feeling of guilt comes probably because you want to be a better mother but that comes with a heavy price. Remember, parenting does not always play out like we expect it to and perfection is not what you are looking for here.