Statistics from World Health Organization (1997) indicate that on a global scale, one out of every three women has experienced violence in an intimate relationship at some point in her life. Various statistical reports published by both governmental and non-governmental organizations indicate that physical abuse of Indian women is quite high, ranging from 22-60 % (ICRW Summary Report). Every year the number of women suffering from the impact of domestic violence is increasing. However, the number of women seeking help for domestic violence or Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) is extremely low. It appears that women often hesitate to seek help or raise their voice against domestic violence or Intimate Partner Violence. 

There are a lot of myths associated with domestic violence, which often prevent one from seeking help. Besides the myths, there is a lack of awareness. Victims of Intimate Partner Violence often struggle to come out of abusive relationships because of misconceptions and a lack of resources present around them. Let’s look at some of the reasons that prevent women from seeking help and ways to resolve the same. 

 
Perceived lack of legal remedies 

Statistics suggest that only 2 percent of abused women have ever sought help from the police in India (NFHS report). Victims have often spoken about how the legal system always works in the favour of the abuser. There is a major misconception about legal remedies present for victims of intimate partner violence. The legal act implemented in 2005 to protect women from domestic violence has been a breakthrough. In fact, there are multiple welfare organizations that work towards spreading awareness about rights and legal remedies available for victims of Intimate Partner Violence. To know more about welfare organizations, click on the following link: Welfare Organizations for Abused Women.  Access to legal services and safety measures for the victims are some of the things that the law mandates for victims of intimate partner violence. To read more about the legal act, click on the following link: DV Act 2005. 

 
Justification of violence 

About 54% of women and 51% of men believe that it is right for a husband to beat his wife under some circumstances such as disrespecting in-laws, neglecting of house and neglecting children (NFHS report). It is quite unfortunate to see that there is a distorted perception of marriage. As individuals, we form our opinions and perceptions by observing others around us. Having witnessed unhealthy marriages around, individuals tend to believe that this is how marriages are supposed to work. After seeing repeated violence in marriages of parents, one tends to believe that violence is justifiable in marriage. As one internalizes this belief, violence becomes acceptable. Unfortunately for something that becomes acceptable, help is rarely sought. 
It is even more important for us to challenge the status quo and continually educate ourselves to understand how healthy marriages work. To learn more about how healthy marriages work, read the following article: Formula for a Great Marriage. 

 
Lack of support system 

Victims of Intimate Partner Violence often find themselves in a difficult place because their loved ones are often not willing to support them. Societal norms often consider it taboo to discuss marital discord. Society often places the burden of maintaining the family's honor and reputation on women. Victims may fear being blamed, shamed, or ostracized if they disclose the abuse. Close family members and friends also find it difficult to console and comfort the person who is being abused. Often, they find themselves feeling quite confused and do not know what exactly they should tell the victims. With the lack of support, the victims of IPV find themselves socially isolated and helpless. 

If you have been trying to cope with intimate partner violence or know of someone who has been trying to cope with abuse and violence in their household, then reach out for emotional support and help. It could become overwhelming for the person to cope with such levels of distress. Hence it is extremely beneficial to seek help. 

Lack of Awareness and Information 

Limited awareness about available support systems and legal remedies is another obstacle faced by women experiencing Intimate Partner Violence. Many women may not know about helplines, shelters, or counseling services specifically designed for survivors of domestic violence. The lack of information about their rights and legal protections leaves women feeling helpless and trapped in abusive situations. 

Economic Dependency and Financial Constraints 

Economic dependency on the abuser can severely limit a woman's options and autonomy. Financial constraints, lack of employment opportunities, and inadequate access to resources make it challenging for women to break free from abusive relationships. The fear of economic insecurity for themselves and their children often acts as a barrier to seeking help and leaving the abusive environment. 

Empowering Women and Breaking the Silence 

Women need to be empowered by addressing the barriers preventing them from seeking help. It involves spreading awareness, educating women about the legal help available to them, and educating society etc. through campaigns, media, schools, etc. to break the stigma around it. Furthermore, enhancing economic opportunities and providing financial support to survivors can offer them a path to independence and safety. 

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